Is d....no sorry, I'm not doing that. Sorry. I genuinely wanna know people's opinions on this! This might not be the best place to do this either, but I don't do social media and I doubt 4chan are interested, so I'm gonna try it here. I'm in two minds. Not saying I'm in huge emotional turmoil about it, although my sympathies are with anyone who loved and cared about her, but my moral compass is all over the place on this one. So first of all I have been a victim of domestic violence. Several times. Most of my relationships since I was a teenager have been abusive. Things like being held at knife point, having my head repeatedly smacked off a wall and having bottles smashed on me. Serious stuff. So when I heard Caroline Flack had allegedly smashed a lamp over her boyfriend's head, my sympathy was with him. But I've also been in some very dark places. When I first returned to the forum just over 4 years ago, I was very unwell. Suicidal. I look back at that time and I honestly don't know how I'm still alive now. Not much more I want to say on that actually. Blah. Soooo when iIheard Caroline Flack had killed herself, my sympathies were with her for being in that place of despair. But...what do we do? What is right and wrong here? I don't believe attacking someone is ok. Not at all. Doesn't matter if it's a woman doing it to a man either, although I disagree with a lot of memes that get shared by incel types, who say there are more male victims than female. That just isn't true. But male victims do certainly exist and it's not right that it happens or ok for it to happen if the perpetrator is a woman. I suppose what we have to remember here though, is that the incidents were alleged, not proven. Regardless...SOMETHING happened that drove Caroline Flack's boyfriend to call the police and for her to then be charged and the case sent to trial. That doesn't happen lightly. I have seen comments and criticism of the CPS over this, that they pushed this case to trial for "show". I don't believe that to be the case at all. Now I know Caroline Flack's boyfriend didn't want to press charges and people think the CPS pushing it was wrong and for show. That's not true. They always do that, if there's enough evidence. I called the police on a partner that was literally throwing me around the room and punching me. I managed to get him outside and secure the door, with me inside. Whilst on the phone to the police, he literally destroyed the front door, which they heard. Similarly to this case (from what I've read), the police came round, arrested my then boyfriend, photographed all the bruising to my face and body and the damage to the door and took a statement. I didn't want to press charges however, because in my mind "I loved him". CPS pushed the case forward to court. They even threatened to pull me out of my brother's wedding if I refused to cooperate (due to a date clash). On one hand, it was all very aggressive and stressful and I began blaming myself and struggling with the guilt of involving the police (which my ex played on). I cursed the CPS, as it sounds like Caroline Flack's boyfriend does. But it's just what they do. They were right to in my case ultimately, as his attacks became more and more violent. I was afraid to call the police again, due to all that happened, until I was imprisoned in my own home for several days after breaking up with him and attacked repeatedly. Should we really blame the CPS? They surely know what they're doing and the cycle of abuse, right? Now what if that boyfriend (or any other of my violent exes) killed himself following all this, or whilst waiting to stand trial? Who would be to blame? I've seen some angry fans of Caroline Flack's blaming her partner for calling the police. I've seen some blaming the CPS for pushing it to trial. But who was really to blame? How would I feel, if this had happened to me and suddenly everyone was saying what a great guy my ex was and how sorry they were that all this had happened to HIM? I can't quite wrap my head around it. Having said that, I am not in the same position as Caroline Flack was. Any mistakes I have made or things that I am ashamed of are not plastered all over the tabloids. If she was a vulnerable woman (and I don't know if she was or not, but she was clearly in a vulnerable place at the time), should her personal life be open to all of us to jeer at? Are the media to blame then? I have seen others say she killed herself to avoid standing trial and facing the consequences of her actions. A cowards way out, like Fred West or Ariel Castro. Is there any truth to that? I wish I knew what to think, so I'm putting it out there to see if I can get any sensible(ish) opinions. Cos this one's put my head in a proper spin and I don't know where I stand. Help me out?